Looking for some conversation starters for couples?
When you first met each other, you probably had an initial physical attraction. This physical attraction is super important and will help to drive your relationship in the beginning.
But over time, relationships require more than physical attraction. They require enriching conversations. (Or our favorite relationship question games)
The more you talk to your partner, the more comfortable you will feel with them.
Of course, conversations don’t always have to be deep. You can have daily conversations about how your day at work went, or you can make time to have deeper conversations about what life looks like in the future.
But don’t worry if you’re struggling to find things to talk about – we’ve got your back!
Here are 100 conversation starters to get you and your partner talking:
Conversation Starters for Couples:
- How was your day today?
- What was the best part of your day today?
- What was the worst part of your day today?
- What are your plans for tomorrow?
- What do you want to do this weekend?
- Did you listen to any good podcasts today?
- Did you hear any relevant news today?
- Did anything exciting happen today?
- What are you looking forward to this week?
- Is there anything that is stressing you out?
- Have you read any good books lately?
- Did you meet anyone new today?
- What do you want to do for dinner tonight?
- Have you seen any good movies lately?
- What are you watching on Netflix right now?
- Is there anything you’re trying to accomplish right now?
- Is there anything I can do to help you accomplish that?
- Are you happy?
- What inspires you to get out of bed each day?
- Have you talked to your family lately?
History-Based Conversation Topics Couples
- Where did you go to school?
- Who was your favorite teacher?
- What was your favorite subject?
- Did you enjoy your childhood?
- What did you love most about your childhood?
- What would you change about your childhood?
- What is your relationship like with your parents?
- What is your relationship like with your brothers and sisters?
- Have you ever been in a long-term relationship?
- Why did that relationship end?
- Have you ever cheated on someone?
- Have you ever been cheated on?
- What is your biggest regret in life so far?
- What do you consider your biggest accomplishment so far?
- Where have you worked in the past?
- What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done?
- Who in your life has had the most influence on you?
- Who have you been most hurt by in your life?
- Have you let go of painful memories in your past?
- Have you ever lost someone close to you? How did you handle that?
Getting to know you Conversation Questions for Couples:
- What’s your favorite movie/series?
- What’s your favorite book?
- What’s your favorite food?
- What do you like to do in your free time?
- Where have you travelled in your life?
- Where do you want to travel?
- Do you have any hobbies? How did you get into them?
- What’s your dream job?
- Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
- Do you think you’re more introverted or extroverted?
- Do you have any pet peeves?
- Do you have any bad habits that I should know about?
- What do you like to do when you’re alone?
- What does your daily routine look like?
- What are you most proud of?
- What energizes you?
- How do you handle stress?
- Do you enjoy spending time with your family?
- What’s your favorite family tradition?
- What’s your favorite memory?
Relationship Based Conversation Starters for Couples
- Do you consider us to be in an exclusive relationship?
- Do you believe in the institution of marriage?
- When do you hope to be married?
- Do you think that marriage changes a relationship?
- What would your dream wedding look like?
- What are your thoughts about divorce?
- What are your thoughts on prenuptial agreements?
- Do you plan to stay in this city forever, or would you like to move?
- What’s your favorite thing to do when we’re together?
- Is there anything you don’t enjoy doing with me?
- Are there any dates you want to go on that we haven’t been on yet?
- What does our future look like?
- Do we have a 5 year plan?
- How do you think we can keep our relationship exciting?
- What are deal breakers for you?
- What does an ideal relationship look like for you?
- What do you need from your partner to stay happy and interested?
- If we move in together, how would we divide the tasks?
- How will we handle our bank accounts/divide expenses?
- If we were having relationship issues, would you consider therapy?
Child-Based Conversation Topics for Couples
- Do you want children?
- How many children do you want?
- Do you want a boy/girl?
- By what age do you want to have children?
- Do you have goals you would like to reach before you have children?
- How do you expect to divide parental roles?
- Is there anything from your childhood that you would like to carry forward for your child?
- Is there anything from your childhood that you would like to do differently with your children?
- What traditions do you want to celebrate with your children?
- What do you think your parenting style will be?
- How would you feel if I found out I couldn’t have kids?
- What strengths and weaknesses do you think will show as a parent?
- How will we invest in our child’s future?
- What are your beliefs on discipline?
- Who will stay home with the baby?
- Will we send our child to childcare?
- What are your thoughts on homeschooling?
- If we have a boy, will we circumcise him?
- How would you feel about our kids sleeping in our bed?
- Will you be a strict parent?
Use these conversation starters for couples as a base to get the conversation started and then see where the conversation leads you.
Finding time to talk as a couple is important. The more you talk, the stronger your connection will be.
We do recognize, however, that life is busy. So sometimes daily chatter just doesn’t happen. If this sounds like you, be sure to set aside at least 1-2 hours each week purely for talking to each other.
Go out for coffee, have dinner together, and always continue to get to know the new person your partner is as you grow together.