Relationship Check In Questions

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When was the last time you checked in with your partner?

We don’t mean to say hello, or ask how their day was in passing. We mean when was the last time that you really checked in?

When was the last time you took some quality time to understand the ins and outs of how your partner is feeling at work? Or at home? Or in your relationship?

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If you’re like most couples, it’s probably been a while. Life is busy and we understand that.

But if you want to keep your relationship moving in a forward direction, it’s important that you take the time to communicate your feelings and understand your partner’s feelings.

That’s why we’ve generated a list of check-in questions that you can use with your partner.

To make things simple, we’ll separate them into things that you can ask each day, each week, and each month to improve your relationship, your communication, and your connection to one another.

Let’s get started:

Daily Questions to Ask Your Partner

Daily questions might not be as intense as weekly or monthly questions, but it’s important that you check in with your partner each and every day to find out how they are doing.

Everyday stresses can quickly add up, and if you know that your partner is going through them then you can better be there to support them.

Here is a list of questions that you can ask your partner at the end of each day, either during dinner or before bed.

How was your day today?
What was the best part of your day today?
What was the worst part of your day today?
Was there anything I did today that upset you?
Was there anything I did today that made you happy?
Is there anything that I did today that you would like to see more of?
Did you hear any interesting news today?
Is there anything I can do to make your day easier today?
Is there anything I can do to make tomorrow easier for you?
Was there anything that made you laugh today?

Did you get any kind of good news today?
What was the best thing that happened to you today?
What are you most grateful for today?
Did anyone do something nice for you today?
Did you do anything kind for someone else today?
Is there anything you’d like to remember about today?
Did you do anything to take care of yourself today?
Were there any moments that made you feel appreciated today?
Were you sad at all today?
Were you angry at all today?

Were you frustrated at all today?
Is there anything I did today that made you feel noticed?
Is there anything I did today that made you feel unnoticed?
Was there anything that made you feel proud today?
Was there anything that happened today that you’d like to see happen tomorrow too?

Weekly Relationship Check In Questions

We don’t always have time at the end of each day to sit down and have a full conversation.

Some couples don’t even see each other every night. That’s okay.

But it’s still important to make time for your relationship.

You should do your best to make time to talk at least once a week. When you do, here are some weekly questions to ask your spouse:

Is there anything that went really well in our relationship this week?
Is there anything that went poorly in our relationship this week?
Is there anything in our relationship you would like to see more of?
Is there anything in our relationship that is bothering you?
Is there anything in particular you would like to do next week?
Is there anything I can do more often that would help deload your stress?
Did you feel close to me this week? Why or why not?
Do you feel like we did a good job of prioritizing our relationship this week?
What can we do to prioritize our relationship next week?
Is there anything you would like to accomplish together next week?

What do you need from me next week?
What did you have the most fun doing with me this week?
Did I do anything that made you feel alone this week?
Did I do anything that made you feel special this week?
Were you happy with our intimacy this week?
Is there anything you would like to see change about our intimacy next week?
What can we do to make our relationship stronger next week?
How do you feel our communication went this week?
Is there anything on your mind that you want to share with me?
What is your schedule like at work next week?

Can we plan a date for next week?
What’s an area of our relationship that we can really focus on next week?
Did I do anything that broke your trust this week?
Is there anything we’ve been avoiding that we should talk about?
Do you feel like we fulfilled our duty and promises to our relationship this week?

Deep Questions to Ask Your Partner Monthly

It’s important to have regular conversations with your partner to keep the communication flowing and keep the connection alive. That’s what daily and weekly questions are for. But sometimes we need to go even deeper.

Once a month, set aside time for you and your partner to really dive deep into your lives and your relationship. It’s only once you know how each other truly feels that you can grow.

Here are some questions you and your partner should be talking about each month:

Are you happy in our relationship?
What can we work on next month to improve our relationship?
Did we communicate well this month?
How do we feel about our parenting this month?
Is there anything we need to work on or change as parents?
How can we support each other to make the necessary changes?
Are we happy with the way that we divide our roles and responsibilities?
How often are we having sex? Are we happy with that?
How can we make our intimate life even better?
How is our emotional intimacy? Do we need to work on our friendship?

Do you consider our relationship to be a “safe place”?
Are there any wounds in our relationship that we need to work on healing?
What was your favorite moment this month? How can we make sure we do more of that?
Do you feel like our relationship is well balanced?
Do you think we have a healthy relationship?
Are you happy with the way we have been handling arguments?
Did we live up to our financial goals last month?
How can we make sure we live up to our financial goals next month?
What’s the next step in our relationship?
What do I do that makes you feel loved?

What do I do that makes you feel alone?
What’s it like to be you right now?
Is there anything you hope never changes about our relationship?
Do you feel like there’s anything missing in our relationship?
What goals can we set for ourselves next month?

Taking the time to sit down and answer these questions could be the difference between a failing and thriving relationship.

The key, of course, is to make sure you listen and follow through on any changes that need to be made. If you can do that, we’re confident that your relationship will thrive!

Sara Kae

Sara, a seasoned expert in wedding planning and date ideas, brings a wealth of experience to our couples blog. With a background in the television industry and hands-on involvement in a dozen weddings, including working as a wedding assistant on "My Fair Wedding with David Tutera," Sara has an innate understanding of the magic that makes weddings truly special. Growing up with four sisters has given her unique insights into the dating world, making her a go-to source for practical and heartfelt dating advice. Her knowledge and enthusiasm make her the perfect guide for couples seeking to infuse their relationships with creativity and love.