This or That Questions For Couples

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Couples are constantly looking for fun relationship question games and activities that they can play together at home or on a date night. This or That questions for couples is one of the coolest dating game ideas out there, because it’s simple and straightforward, but still leaves room for couples to be creative and show off their personality in their answers.

Couple up for this game by deciding who will go first-and then ask your partner these questions.

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This or that questions for couples is a great way to get to know your partner better and learn more about their personality, as well as have some fun together. 

It’s the perfect game to play when you’re bored and looking for something new to do on a date night

You can even try it with together with this YouTube video below!

How To Play Couples This or That Questions Game

This game is really easy – all you need is a list of the two options available in each question (This OR That) and your partner will answer by picking which option they prefer more.

It’s perfect for couple’s of all ages – anyone can play this game and it’s a great learning experience, too.

It’s not just a fun date activity to do at home but also good when played on a date night so you can create some laughter over appetizers or cocktails (try this out with your partner) and break the ice by getting to know each other better.

All these questions are customizable and you can make this your own by adding more choices of this or that after some of the ones on this list have been asked.

They’re similar to the Would You Rather Questions.


The questions do not always have to involve “weird” things like eating bugs or jumping off a bridge (although it may seem strange at first) – sometimes this OR That will simply ask questions about your life or preferences.

Choose some questions that are not just playful but also can lead to some serious discussions about important topics such as your beliefs on politics, religion and current events as well if you’re getting to know someone. 

This or that questions demonstrate what someone values by asking each question- this is why it’s fun to play as a couple because you’re able to see how different each of your opinions are, too!

Fun This or That Questions For Couples

  1. Netflix or Hulu?
  2. Sushi or pizza?
  3. F.R.I.E.N.D.S. or Seinfeld?
  4. Outdoor grilling meal or indoor BBQ?
  5. In-n-Out Burger or Shake Shack?
  6. Long hair, natural curls, or all straight?
  7. Coffee or tea?
  8. Clean the kitchen in the morning or at night?
  9. Sweet or savory?
  10. Movie or TV Show?

  1. Beach or mountains?
  2. Laptop or Desktop?
  3. Slot machines or lotto ticket?
  4. Baseball or football?
  5. Grocery pickup or shop in store?
  6. Date night in or out on the town?
  7. One long vacation or a bunch of weekend getaways?
  8. Tacos or burritos?
  9. Lake or ocean?
  10. 3 day weekend every weekend or one full week off a month?

  1. Cash or card?
  2. Dress up or dress down?
  3. Facebook or Instagram?
  4. Dog or cat?
  5. Shopping spree or road trip?
  6. Fries or chips?
  7. Wine or beer?
  8. Marvel or DC?
  9. Early morning or late night?
  10. Brunch or dessert?

  1. Cake or ice cream?
  2. Hire a chef or house cleaner?
  3. Drama or Comedy movie?
  4. Winter or Summer?
"friends or Seinfeld?"

This or That Relationship Questions 

If you’re looking for a fun way to get to know your partner better, then this section is perfect for you! This section includes relationship “this or that” questions. It’s time to break out the sexy voice and have some real fun with these questions! 

Let’s get started…are you ready?

  1. Candle lit dinner or dancing?
  2. Netflix & Chill or Movie Theater Date?
  3. Stay at home or go out?
  4. Cook a meal or delivery?
  5. Massage or cuddle time?
  6. Text or phone call?
  7. Hugs or kisses?
  8. Gifts or quality time?
  9. Eyes or smile?
  10. Romance or fun?

  1. Board game or video game?
  2. Pizza and beer or seafood and wine?
  3. Flowers or chocolates?
  4. Coffee date or ice cream date?
  5. One person pays or split the check?
  6. Action or Comedy?
  7. Planned date or spontaneous?
  8. Double date with friends or just the two of you?
  9. Love or money?
  10. Laser tag or mini golf?

  1. Sense of humor or street smart?
  2. Long distance or break up?
  3. Flavor of the week or stuck on one person?
  4. Get married after 15 weeks or wait 15 years?
  5. Give gifts or receive gifts?
  6. Dishes or Laundry?
  7. Movie night in or movie night out?
  8. Cuddling or kissing?
  9. Early bird or night owl?

  1. Beach or mountains?
  2. Sweet or salty snacks?
  3. Country living or city living?
  4. Watch sports or play sports?
  5. Camping or glamping?
  6. Wine or beer?
  7. Go out or stay in?
  8. Ice cream or cake?
  9. Date night in or date night out?
  10. Walk or run?
"hugs or kisses".
  1. Board games or video games?
  2. Cook breakfast or cook dinner?
  3. Dancing or singing?
  4. Watch TV or read a book?
  5. Morning or evening person?
  6. Classic or modern literature?
  7. Travel by car or plane?
  8. Text or call?
  9. Road trip or international vacation?
  10. Comedy or drama?

  1. Early in the relationship or long-term love?
  2. Unload or load the dishwasher?
  3. Order online or shop in store?
  4. Stay in pajamas all day or get dressed up?
  5. Sexy time in the morning or at night?
  6. Classic or modern movies?
  7. Skiing or snowboarding?
  8. Go out with friends or stay in together?
  9. Watch a movie or go to a play?
  10. Diamonds or pearls?

  1. Night out at a fancy restaurant or a cozy dinner at home?
  2. French toast or pancakes?
  3. Travel alone or travel together?
  4. Plan a surprise or be surprised?
  5. Board games or card games?
  6. Cook together or take turns cooking?
  7. Play video games together or separately?
  8. Early bird or night owl?1
  9. Watch a sunset or watch a sunrise?
  10. Attend a concert or watch a movie?

  1. Learn a new skill together or separately?
  2. Surprise gift or planned gift?

This or That Couples Questions For Love Languages

Have you heard of the 5 love languages? (you should try our love language challenge) It’s a pretty cool way of understanding how people give and receive love. Dr. Gary Chapman came up with the idea, and it’s all about figuring out your primary love language – whether it’s words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or physical touch.

Knowing your partner’s love language can be super helpful for improving communication, building intimacy, and strengthening your relationship.

So, we’ve got “this or that” questions related to the 5 love languages that will help you get to know your partner on a deeper level.

  1. Words of affirmation or acts of service?
  2. Physical touch or quality time?
  3. Receiving gifts or words of affirmation?
  4. Acts of service or physical touch?
  5. Quality time or receiving gifts?
  6. Words of affirmation or quality time?
  7. Acts of service or receiving gifts?
  8. Quality time or physical touch?
  9. Receiving gifts or acts of service?
  10. Physical touch or words of affirmation?

  1. Spending time together or giving thoughtful gifts?
  2. Offering emotional support or doing helpful tasks?
  3. Giving compliments or giving gifts?
  4. Spending quality time or performing acts of service?
  5. Communicating through physical touch or giving encouraging words?
  6. Doing practical things to help or buying special gifts?
  7. Expressing feelings through physical touch or spending quality time?
  8. Giving thoughtful compliments or doing tasks to support?
  9. Communicating through quality time or giving thoughtful gifts?
  10. Demonstrating affection through physical touch or doing helpful things for your partner?
"physical touch or quality time".

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Travel This or That Questions

  1. Road Trip or fly somewhere?
  2. Chill vacay or full of activities?
  3. Beach or mountains?
  4. All inclusive or diy?
  5. Water activities or land?
  6. Hotel or airbnb?
  7. Famous restaurant or hole in the wall?
  8. Stay in and order room service or explore the town?
  9. Skydiving or bungee jumping?
  10. Shark cage diving or sailing?

  1. Winter or Summer?
  2. Vacation or staycation?
  3. Country or city?
  4. Travel agent or book yourself?
  5. Two weeks or weekend trip?
  6. Slow travel or fast travel?
  7. Europe or South America?

This or That Questions Dirty & Flirty

You might be wondering what “flirty This or That Questions” are. Well, they’re a fun way to get to know your partner in a sexy way! Check out some examples below.

Whether it’s for fun, curiosity, or because you think something might be wrong in your relationship and want to address it head-on, these flirty this or that questions will give us all a little insight into what is going on in our heads when it comes to relationships.

  1. Commando or supported?
  2. Skinny dipping or streaking?
  3. Bedroom light on or off?
  4. Adult time in the shower or jacuzzi?
  5. Mile high club or middle of the ocean?
  6. Kisses on the neck or forehead?

  1. Hook up with your ex or never hook up again?
  2. Couples photoshoot or solo shoot?
  3. Sexy music or candlelight?
  4. Lingerie or nothing?
  5. More communication or more physical touch?
  6. Do an adult video or be an escort?
  7. Get a lap dance or strip yourself?

Funny This or That Questions

There are so many things that make a relationship work. It takes communication, understanding, and compromise. But sometimes you just need to laugh at yourself and your partner too!

Whether you’re celebrating your first anniversary or arguing over who has the most clothes in the closet, there’s no better way to get through life than by having some laughs with each other.

Check out these funny “This or That” questions for couples of all ages! 

  1. Toilet paper belongs over or under?
  2. Zombie apocalypse or The Purge?
  3. Have triplets 2 years in a row or have 1 baby per year for 6 years?
  4. Star in a horror movie or reality TV show?
  5. Have dial up internet or a flip phone?
  6. Batman or Superman?
  7. TikTok or YouTube?
  8. Truth or Dare?
  9. Right or Left side of the bed?
  10. Keeping Up With The Kardashians or Big Brother?

  1. Stand up comedy or poetry slam?
  2. Talk like Yoda or breathe like Darth Vader?
  3. Drink hot sauce or eat raw onions?
  4. Always wear a cape or always wear a tutu?
  5. Have a pet dragon or a pet unicorn?
  6. Eat pizza with a fork or eat sushi with your hands?
  7. Have a third arm or a third leg?
  8. Never be able to use the internet again or never be able to use a phone again?
  9. Have a permanent unibrow or no eyebrows at all?
  10. Be able to talk to animals or speak every human language fluently?

  1. Eat only pizza for a month or eat only sushi for a month?
  2. Be a superhero or a supervillain?
  3. Have to sing everything you say or dance every time you walk?
  4. Wear a clown wig or a clown nose every day?
  5. Only be able to whisper or only be able to shout?
  6. Always be overdressed or always be underdressed?
  7. Be able to teleport or time travel?
  8. Have a pet dinosaur or a pet robot?
  9. Be stuck on a deserted island with your worst enemy or with nobody at all?
  10. Never be able to eat chocolate again or never be able to eat cheese again?
  11. Eat a bug or kiss a frog?
"toilet paper over or under".

This Or That Questions To Ask A Girl

You want a girl who laughs with you, not at you. And when it comes to this kind of humor, she should be laughing with you more than she is laughing at you! So take this opportunity to find out what makes her laugh by trying these this or that question ideas to ask a girl:

  1. Man bun or bald?
  2. Dad bod or 6 pack?
  3. Career or dreams?
  4. Kiss or hug?
  5. Baseball player or CEO?
  6. Braless or commando?
  7. Smart or rich?
  8. No make up or hair not done?
  9. Career or retire?
  10. Christmas or Thanksgiving?

  1. Dinner and a Movie or Netflix and Chill?
  2. Action or romantic movies?
  3. Text message or phone call?
  4. Dancing or singing?
  5. Hiking or biking?
  6. Hot weather or cold weather?
  7. Classic or modern cars?
  8. Classic or modern literature?
  9. Flowers or chocolates?
  10. Action or strategy video games?

  1. Online shopping or in-person shopping?
  2. Apple or Android?
  3. Comedy or drama?
  4. Fast food or home-cooked meals?
  5. Reading or writing?
  6. Camping or hotel?
  7. Netflix or YouTube?
  8. Pizza or hamburgers?
  9. Makeup or natural look?
  10. Morning or evening shower?

  1. City or countryside?
  2. Yoga or weightlifting?
  3. Texting or talking in person?
  4. Sunglasses or hats?
  5. Diamond or pearl jewelry?
  6. Movie theater or movie at home?
"dad bod or six pack".

This or That Questions To Ask A Guy

  1. Pretty or funny?
  2. Taller or shorter?
  3. Shave your legs or arms?
  4. Career or family?
  5. Never wear deodorant or never shave?
  6. Romantic dinner or adventurous date?
  7. Never get married or marry your ex?
  8. Boxers or briefs?
  9. Pizza or hamburgers?
  10. Beach or mountains?

  1. Early bird or night owl?
  2. Cats or dogs?
  3. Comedy or drama?
  4. Beer or wine?
  5. Football or basketball?
  6. Text message or phone call?
  7. Hot weather or cold weather?
  8. Fiction or non-fiction books?
  9. Boxers or briefs?
  10. Marvel or DC comics?

  1. Morning or evening shower?
  2. Action or romantic movies?
  3. Coffee or tea?
  4. Camping or hotel?
  5. Summer or winter?
  6. City or countryside?
  7. Guitar or drums?
  8. Action or strategy video games?
  9. Dancing or singing?
  10. Fast food or home-cooked meals?

  1. Netflix or YouTube?
  2. Swimming or hiking?
  3. Online shopping or in-person shopping?
  4. Book or movie adaptations?
  5. Classic or modern cars?
  6. Spicy or mild food?
  7. Beer or cocktail?
  8. Skiing or snowboarding?
"boxers or briefs".

We hope you enjoyed these This or That questions for couples. If you and your partner are looking to have some fun together, this is a great game to play that will get you talking more about what’s important in life as well as how each of you react differently- not just on things like food preferences but also when it comes to work ethic, family dynamics and other aspects of life.

It’s easy enough for anyone who wants to give it a try, so go ahead and start playing now with these questions.

Sara, a seasoned expert in wedding planning and date ideas, brings a wealth of experience to our couples blog. With a background in the television industry and hands-on involvement in a dozen weddings, including working as a wedding assistant on "My Fair Wedding with David Tutera," Sara has an innate understanding of the magic that makes weddings truly special. Growing up with four sisters has given her unique insights into the dating world, making her a go-to source for practical and heartfelt dating advice. Her knowledge and enthusiasm make her the perfect guide for couples seeking to infuse their relationships with creativity and love.

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